1207978_s According to a recent article from Psychology Today, on co-parenting after divorce, young children are said to be the most highly affected when they are exposed to conflict between parents or experience a dramatic lessening in time spent with either parent. Traditional child custody arrangements consist of one parent who is the primary caregiver and decision-maker for the child or children. The non-custodial parent has arranged visitation times which vary from case to case. In some traditional arrangements where the parents live relatively close to each other, visitation may be as often as every weekend. In other arrangements, where parents live far apart, visitation may only include certain holidays and a few weeks during the summer. This type of custody arrangement, of necessity, separates children from parents for prolonged periods of time, which often results in anxiety, aggressive behavior and problems with sleep and school.  Co-parenting One way that is believed to be more effective in raising children after a divorce is through co-parenting. In this type of custody, parents agree to work together with respect to where their children will be, and for what length of time. Some of the benefits of co-parenting include the following:

  • Decision making – Both parents share responsibility in making important decisions relating to their children.
  • Records – Both parents retain access to medical and school records, along with any other records that may be related to the welfare of the child.
  • Convenience – Parents who have a working co-parenting arrangement often find making changes in scheduling far more convenient than in traditional custody arrangements.
  • Focus – This type of custody allows more of the parent’s focus to be on the child or children involved. According to Dr. Joan Kelley, a professor of psychology, parents are the most qualified experts on their own children, and as such are more capable of making co-parenting decisions to benefit them.

Many children benefit when divorced parents are willing to work together by using co-parenting to schedule child custody. Such cooperation on the part of parents often helps raise children who are more confident and less anxious as they grow toward adulthood. Choosing Custody Style  Though there are many benefits to co-parenting, there may be times when a traditional custody arrangement may be in the best interests of a child. These types of situations may include relationships, in which there may have been spousal abuse, bitter, emotion-filled relationships after the divorce or in cases where one spouse lives many miles away. A family law attorney can help to determine which type of custody arrangement will be most beneficial for you and your child. 

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